Burnout is such a glib word for it, isn't it? Like you can just replace the bulb in the "giving a shit" socket, instead of having to scrape the char off the last piece of bread fished from a malfunctioning toaster; you have no more bread, your toaster is burning in the driveway, and your metaphor has gone skipping down the block.

I've had to repeatedly remind myself that if [shame, self-recrimination, willpower, punishment, withholding rewards, panic, anxiety] had ever worked, they sure as shit haven't for a long while, so let's pivot.

Aside from more specific 'adhd in women' resources, I found a seminar by this person to be very useful in digging into the roots of my own burnout, with guidance on how to approach the values and emotions and connection stuff that's made things better: https://adversityrising.com/